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How To Overcome Adversity

By David Valois | Sin categoría

Feb 20

How to escape from you comfort zone

Do you think Leonardo da Vinci was lucky? What a smart guy. All he did was right.

No failures.

No doubts.

It was somehow effortless. Everything he touched turned into gold. Leonardo never left his comfort zone.

For the great genius life was easy.

No.

Leonardo da Vinci knew everything about leaving his comfort zone. He supported tons of resistance. And that was the key of his masterpieces.

All genius left their comfort zone. And they also knew success wasn’t guaranteed. They had to overcome uncertainty. Because like many historians say, the secret of the genius to succeed is:

 

Continuing despite uncertainty.

 

All the world genius went through long periods of failures. They failed a lot.

And they also gave up.

Leonardo left many ambitious projects undone. He didn’t have the courage to complete them. And this meant sad benefactors. Not good for his career.

But Leonardo, as a genius, persevered.

He continued fighting for new ideas.

Leonardo, as many geniuses, also grew up without basic studies. What for most people meant closed doors, for them was the key to succeed. No rigid academic structures. Nothing limiting their imagination.

This together with their discipline to experiment new possibilities despite conventional wisdom, made them great. Leonardo, for example, was a polymath fascinated by everything. He combined all the images and structures he saw and discovered new patterns he later transformed into masterpieces. That’s how he designed the helicopter or the parachute 400 years ahead of his time.

Do you think that if Leonardo da Vinci developed such discipline you can’t?

Of course you can.

Leonardo was human like you. He had only one brain. That’s why you must compare yourself with the big ones. If someone could, you can. You only need discipline. Because you have already enough neurons. It’s a question of making the connections.

You don’t have to be special. Or do you think John Lennon was born knowing it all? No. He insisted all he needed to develop his skills. And of course, the Beatles were rejected by many record labels. But John persisted and had the discipline to evolve his music.

This is the way to go.

Most people think that genius suffer no pain. But no. Great careers had their dose of pain.

Once you know this, going out of your comfort zone will be easy.

The newspapers love to tell stories about fast success. So most people think there is a shortcut. There must be a gap in the system!

But no.

This kind of success is short. You don’t know the end of the story. And it doesn’t end well.

But this doesn’t sell newspapers.

There is no free lunch. Yet the good thing is that once you pay, you are ahead of 95% of people forever.

 

How the latest discoveries of quantum physics will help you

You have billions of cells. They are the same cells that once belonged to Darwin, Mozart, or Leonardo da Vinci. Because you are made of the same material of your ancestors. And your past successes (you have them, we will see this later) prove that everything is possible.

So why not you?

Quantum physics favor you. You are made of the right material. So don’t disqualify yourself. Never deify others. If so, you are depriving many people from your talent. Because think that it’s not about you. Think better that you owe something to future generations. This will help you.

Thinking in others will boost your success. The men and women who turned into geniuses in the past didn’t pursue a price. Their driving force was more profound. They had the desire to make something big for future generations.

 

Why escaping from your comfort zone will make you better… and finally give you more comfort

You, like Darwin or Leonardo da Vinci, will find envy and classism. Especially if you work is good.

Nobody Ñwanted to read Kafka. Coppola was literally hungry during his first movies. And people didn’t like Monet´s paintings at first.

So the greater your goal, the more resistance.

Don’t expect anything. Rejection is your friend. It will show you that you are on the right track.

If you find resistance you are doing well. Nothing good comes out easily. Those moments where you feel tense trying something. are the best moments of your life. In these tense moments, you are progressing. In fact, it’s the only moments where you are progressing.

That tense silence with that person…

That extra written words when you were tired…

That moment where you said yes when you wanted to say no…

If you feel tense you are progressing. Good move.

Resistance is the form of greatness. So recognize the moment. Enjoy the pain. Don’t be timid or you will get lost in the mainstream.

Let others seek for luck. Better for you.

You don’t need to be the smartest or well educated. If you follow your way, rewards will come.

Think like Edmund Hillary, the first man to reach the Everest. He said there were much better climbers than him, but he reached the top of the world because he was a climber that never gave up. He wasn’t technically the best. But he never abandoned. He understood it was the discipline, not the talent.

Like Emerson said, “When you avoid temptation, its power passes to you.” So laugh about comfort. Expect resistance and embrace it. “Thanks, you are making me stronger!” The difference between good achievers and great achievers is that good achievers tolerate discomfort and great achievers love discomfort.

You only have to try, simply try to break your comfort zone. So you will grow fast. And since many obstacles are repeated, once you overcome one, you will overcome many similar challenges in the future. Because many obstacles are similar. So do the work once and it will be forever. Resistance is your tool to separate yourself from competitors. Accept it and you will get instant results.

 

Do you know where the Promised Land is?

Be honest. Be impolitely honest. What do you see when you look around you?

This is what I see:

I see millions of people running like crazy after “achieve it in 24 hours” success schemes. I see 95% of people looking for instant gratification. I see them avoiding obstacles like a plague.

And this is what I see in the 5% who succeed:

I see that they don’t try to escape from adversity. And this makes them happier. They jump to adversity because they know adversity is the Promised Land. This is something unhappy and ruined people don’t know. The key is never escaping from adversity. The key is not asking “why is everything so difficult.” Smiling in adversity will separate you from the rest.

I must confess that I was a master at escaping from adversity. Better procrastinating my search for my passion. Whenever fear appeared I stayed in my comfort zone. A very comfortable zone. But a very big shit also.

Only when I realized that progress was in adversity, things changed. That difficult first step to try that business, that uncomfortable first conversation with a new person, or that extra 20 minutes writing a book.

And there it was.

The Promised Land.

The Promised Land exists. But it’s behind your fear. So don’t wait, run to those tasks you are now afraid of.

And please; don’t worry about results.

Fail thousand times if necessary! Because you can be sure that once you start your big project, or try to speak in front of thousand persons, you will lose your fear.

Try during two seconds and nothing will be difficult.

Suddenly you will feel stronger and immune to criticism. Humble, but confident.

It’s the beginning of your leadership.

So if you want to know always which direction to take, choose the one you fear most. So you will be always right. With this strategy you will always win.

 

 

The reconverted numbers. How to turn your worst enemy into your best weapon

Once you know that great people also failed, and failed many times, do like them. Focus permanently in your goal. It’s the way Michelangelo painted the Sistine Chapel. It’s how Gustav Eiffel built the Eiffel Tower. It’s how Alexander Dumas wrote his masterpieces. And it’s how people overthrew dictators. Their dream guided them.

And this obsessive way of thinking led them to achieve “unattainable” numbers.

So be obsessive. Your mind is like the mind of geniuses.

 

The reconverted numbers

If you believe in yourself, your mind will find past successes to motivate you. Program it right and it will take you where you want.

But do the opposite, think that you can’t, and this will change your numbers. It will show you your failures in order to quit.

Imagine you achieved 15 great contacts in your career. You can turn this into a good skill to win more contacts. But it also can be a failure because you only achieved 15 contacts in your whole career. No matter if you exceeded others results, if you want you can see the bottle half empty instead of half full.

Many people build a past of failures in order to protect themselves from trying something great. Instead of seeing old errors as experiences, they say “I’m a failure,” and so they won’t try anything.

But no.

They are their past victories, not their past failures.

So simply reconvert your numbers. Never underestimate your potential.

Take a second look at your past and make numbers again. But only look at the good part. Your mind is in your team not in your competitor’s team. Don’t fall into the trap of not recognizing your successes. You have them. You can be sure you have them.

Think that your current situation is the best to begin. You aren’t a soccer World Cup winner now. You aren’t Hemingway. You aren’t Leonardo da Vinci. But it’s because you were in another situation. You were in your training period.

So from now on, you will use errors as experiences to make you stronger. So you will perform like a real number one, believe me.

Do you remember that compliment after finishing a difficult task? Do you remember that admiration you produced thanks to your clever argument? You were in the good way. And someone took note. But you have to insist.

So recognize continuously good actions of your past. Repeat mentally your good moves. Because where you focus on expands. Repeat it in your mind because so you will do it physically. You will recover the energy to reject an extra plate of pommes frites or to restart today that old project you were afraid of.

You are prepared. But please, change your numbers. Visualize a different past. Your results didn’t matter. Turn your “unimportant” won matches into big won matches.

From now on that good work you did, or your old brilliant idea must be your unique thought. Your new reconverted numbers. So instead of thinking “My days are hard,” think “If I did this in the past, my growth is unlimited.” And so you will leverage your skills.

Where others think in past failures, you will win energy. Your old numbers are there to help you or to stop you. You decide.

 

You a legend that makes opponent shake?

Think of the energy a team has after a winning streak. Winning five matches in a row gave them the confidence to win the next match. Even if they weren’t technically the best, they will win again. Look at the results of your favorite sport. This year there was also a team whose past victories encouraged them to win the next match.

But observe that there are also teams or players spiraling into defeats. No matter how much they try, they will lose easy matches. A new defeat again.

And so is life for most people. They choose the wrong numbers and think they can’t win. “Another defeat, so is my life.”

But the enemy is inside of them.

They expect something to be impossible, and so it is, impossible. The proof is their past failures! And so they continue their losing streak.

But you can turn it around.

You can change even the worse situation. Simply believe you are the best. It’s from that moment on where everything changes.

Nothing will serve if it doesn’t come from the inside. So choose your legendary moment. Repeat again that past movement. That’s how great players appear.

So remember: first the inside, then the hero.

If you think you can, strengths from nowhere will appear. You will discipline yourself and act like that sport or business star you admire. And you won’t ever repeat “It’s hard,” “I can’t,” or “It’s not for me!” From that moment you will only see victories. Because you had them. Think again and you will discover numbers in your favor.

It’s the hero’s journey.

Ulysses, the athlete Jesse Owen, or that great statesman did their journey. They failed. But they turned into a new person thanks to remembering their good numbers. Looking the positive past turned them into a guided missile.

So do the same.

Have a unique thinking. Be radical. Change your numbers to perform like a gold medal winner. Change your numbers to perform like the best entrepreneur. That’s the way to win in the major leagues.

With a new self-image everything is possible.

No matter how much you failed. Use your own numbers to be the star that makes competitors shake. You are James Bond, Messi, Einstein and Indiana Jones together. Goals are there to grab them.

And now, a last advice to overcome your fears:

 

The one-step technique

Move!

If you move you will kill negativity. With movement you kill worries and give a way out to adrenaline.

And meanwhile you will reach your goals.

The solution is always action. You will kill any fear with simply one step forward. Don’t try to do it perfect. Simply move and panic will disappear. And the accumulated adrenaline will give you extra energy.

As soon as you stop saying “This isn’t for me,” you have it. Then you will invest one minute in your biggest project, then you will touch that imposing dog, or then you will say what you have to say.

One step forward and fear will die.

The first step is the most difficult, but the rest is downhill. One step is enough to overcome fear. Try it because success is behind one simple action.

This first step mustn’t be physical, it can also be mental. Say “Fear is normal, but I will continue.” Then take a breath and visualize yourself achieving your goals. And fear will be a simple tingling in your stomach.

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