Do you want to discover how to be confident?
You will agree with me when I say:
With self-confidence you will boost your life in seconds.
...Speaking in public.
...Asking that girl for a date (and doing it right).
...Earning 7 figures thanks to being bolder in business.
...Winning lifelong friends at a party or congress.
Imagine you being fearless!
How to be confident
And therefore I will give you 100 tips to get unbreakable self-confidence. Calm in the storm. Rejection won’t affect you. Everybody will admire you.
Your life can be epic!
Yet now you feel frustrated...
Many times you have the opportunity... and finally you hesitate.
Goodbye to the woman, men, or career of your dreams!
99% Of people never achieve their goals because they don´t know how to be confident.
Are you also tired of losing opportunities?
Then I will give you 100 FAST TIPS to get confident.
It will be like reading the best self-confidence books
If you know how to be confident you will transform your life today.
Simply choose one of those 100 tips that fits you.
(I´ve helped hundreds of my clients to lose build confidence with them.)
Don´t you have time to read the list? Ok, then simply follow this tip:
Don’t be ashamed of having fear. You are not alone. The sports stars, the Gandhis, and the Michelangelos, also had fear like you.
But they knew how to be confident. Like you after reading this article.
So the fastest way to build SELF-CONFIDENCE is simply knowing that everybody has fear.
And it’s not too late for you!
Whether you are now too shy, too old, or too short, if you wanto to with all your heart learn how to be confident, you will find the tip that better fits your personality. You´ll benefit instantly from it.
Because ANY of these tips will change your life.
But don’t lose time, the reward is too big. So, Congratulations in advance for reading this.
You will live great stories!
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First my definition of self-confidence:
(I have my own personal definition on how to be confident, not politically correct, sorry.)
"Self-confidence is being bold like after a bottle of vodka,
but with a clear brain and without the health effects."
And now your 100 tips:
1. BEHIND FEAR IS YOUR BIGGEST SUCCESS
If something scares you, it's good. The man or woman of your dreams won’t appear if you are comfortable. The project that will make you rich also will scare you. So your strategy is simple: if it scares you, you are in front of a great opportunity to build your self-confidence.
2. THE BEST TIP ON HOW TO BE CONFIDENT IS...
KNOWING OTHER´S FEAR!
You are not alone. If you observe others you will see they also have fear. And more than you, Yet your advantage is that you a taking action to gain confidence (otherwise you wouldn’t read this).
Only by trying, you will get bolder.
3. YOUR BEST QUOTE TO BECOME CONFIDENT: IF YOU TRY TO BE SELF-CONFIDENT AND LOSE, YOU ALSO WIN
Only good things wait behind fear. If you try and fail, it’s good. So don’t focus on the result. Focus on your new knowledge, something 95% of people will never get.
4. EVERYBODY HAD LACK IN SELF-CONFIDENCE FIRST (ESPECIALLY THE PEOPLE YOU ADMIRE)
The Joe Montanas, the Gandhis, the Michelangelos, or any talented person you admire also had fear. They failed and got rejected. But they continued facing fear. Self-discipline was the difference.
5. THE OPTION OF NOT TRYING IS BEING UNHAPPY
There is a bottleneck you must cross. Fear. Yet the other option is not achieving your dream and getting old fast.
6. BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE KNOWING THAT FEAR IS AN INHERITED MECHANISM (LIKE BEING HUNGRY)
You aren´t inferior. Fear is in your DNA. It was developed more than 100.000 years ago when we had to hunt to survive. So it’s stupid neglecting it.
7. HOW TO BE CONFIDENT FAST? FIRST MASTER SENSING FEAR
If you want to know how to be confident fast, first you must feel fear, sorry. People pursue self-confident as it were the Holy Grail. But to become self-confident, first you must go through fear. First you must touch that imposing dog and speak with that imposing person. Only then you will see it’s possible and become self-confident.
Saying you have no fear is bragging, as most people do, but so they only hide their problem and make it bigger.
8. ARE YOU AT YOU LOWEST POINT?
IT´S A VERY GOOD PLACE TO START TO GET CONFIDENT
Desperation can be the best thing that happens to you. Because there you see a 100% pure quality truth. A so agonizing truth, that you will dedicate body and soul to your highest goal.
On the bottom I stopped lying to myself, and from there I took action. And my life changed much faster starting from zero. There I took the exact measures. I didn’t say “I’m going to do better.” I took the specific measures, read the specific books, and developed the specific skills. I stopped lying to myself. There I discovered how to change my life.
So if you look at yourself and recognize "I´m lost," everything will change fast.
9. THE ONLY THING YOU MUST FEAR
There is only one thing that will make you succeed or fail.
Do you want another good definition of confidence?
It´s reacting positively to your obstacles.
You can’t control what happens, but it’s what you do afterward what counts.
So if you react to fear as something normal, you control your reaction. And so you get the power. Goodby adversity! You will look at that imposing dog, or woman out of your league and do your job.
And as a side-effect, you will look much cooler and be the person to follow.
10. CONFIDENT MEN AND WOMEN RECOGNIZE THEIR SITUATION
"Why do I lack confidence?" ask many people.
Because it´s NORMAL. I have fear, you have fear and everybody has fear.
But we tend to think we are the only ones.
Yet observe that most people don´t even pronounce the word fear. Do you remember a conversation with your friends speaking about fear?
So take the shortcut, recognize your fear.
11. IT’S NOT TOO LATE TO BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE
Whether you think you are too shy, too old, too short, or whatever (again: you think) limits you can solve it.
You can escape from the prison. Any goal is possible even if you think you are there lowest value person on earth.
(Tip: you aren’t.)
12. …YET SELF-CONFIDENCE BUILDING IS URGENT
Your priority must be practicing confidence, the sooner you begin the better. Otherwise you´ll self-sabotage yourself without knowing it. It’s really a priority because this will change everything.
Because what’s the other option? What’s the option of not facing fear?
13. WOMEN AND MEN WITH CONFIDENCE NEVER WAIT FOR THE PERFECT MOMENT
We tend to think great occasions will come in the future. Better times will come! Politicians will reinforce it so that you want them. You will try this and once you have a better job or win more money, you will try to be self-confident.
Yet, how to be confident if you never train your courage muscle?
Most people do the error of waiting for the perfect moment.
But the perfect moment never comes. So don’t wait for a better moment or your life will pass without achieving anything. The perfect moment is now. You have to commit errors and face fear. So in case of doubt follow only this:
THE DOORWAY IS FEAR
If something sounds too good from a third person, it´s a scam. Yet if you face fear, you will have a big reward. The worst that could happen? That you will earn a lot.
14. HOW TO GAIN MORE CONFIDENCE: DON’T MIX FEAR WITH COMMON SENSE
Many say fear is necessary to protect you. You need fear to avoid danger. So they don’t say their opinion, they don’t try the risky project, and they don’t touch the animal. It’s dangerous!
Remember that if it hurts you get better.
Otherwise your life gets worse.
But don’t mix up things. If there are stupid guys who want to fight in a bar, you don’t need fear to not get into trouble. You only need common sense.
15. FACE FEAR AND YOU WILL ELIMINATE ALL ITS SECONDARY EFFECTS (AND THEY ARE A LOT)
Confront fear and you will eliminate stress, strokes, and depression.
It´s self-growth on steroids!
And you will also eliminate a personal life you hate because you don’t do what you want.
16. DON´T KNOW HOW TO BE CONFIDENT?
Economic giants fail because nobody in the organization says the truth to protect their job. (Innovation in a corporate environment is a myth).
So lead by example saying the truth despite it hurts and you will save at least your own company, or your own department.
17. IT’S JUST THAT SECOND WHERE YOU ACT UNDER PRESSURE WHAT WILL GIVE YOU A BETTER LIFE
You can have the knowledge and the contacts, but if you avoid the tough moment where you go to the scenario for that public speak or avoid the tense moment of approaching a new person, you will continue as a slave of your social circle, your boss and your monthly check.
You´ll never learn how to be confident if you avoid the tough moment.
18. SHOOT FIRST AND ASK LATER (THE ONLY MOMENT WHERE YOU CAN’T THINK)
When facing tension don´t think. Put your mind in blank and take the step.
Whether you want to cross a difficult moment playing basketball, managing your team, or practicing karate, there are always moments where you can’t think. You must try whatever the outcome.
You will have time enough to say sorry later. So shoot first and ask later.
19. BEWARE THE “BUT I’M A GOOD PERSON!” TRAP
“I finished my studies! I read the books! I already did the work! Why must I face tough situations? “
Excuse me but having a good job, good time management skills, and better ethics is not a secure recipe on how to be confident. It won´t substitute crossing the barrier of getting self-confident. Not if you want to save years of work. Don’t be naïve.
20. YOU WILL BE LONELY AT FIRST (this Confident TED Talk will help you)
Yet follow the advice I give you to get confident, and everything will change. And faster than you think.
This confidence TED talk will motivate you if you feel lonely at first.
21. AVOID OTHER´S ADVICE TO WIN SELF-CONFIDENCE
I’m tired of hearing things like: “I’m in this place many years and my experience says it won’t work.” Nonsense. Where´s the person who said that?
In a shitty job with a shitty life.
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22. LAUGH WHEN SOMEONE SAYS HE ISN’T AFRAID. HE´S LYING
When someone tries to hide his fear, he wears a mask. And he also fears what others think.
23. ATTENTION! IT’S EASY LIVING A FANTASY AND NOT TAKING THE MEASURES TO BECOME SELF-CONFIDENT
It’s easy living a fantasy and continuing avoiding tension. Today you can play video games, eat as much cheap food as you want, and with a 10-dollar Netflix subscription be the hero of the movie you don’t dare to live. And Internet with its free information will make you think you know it all. And then on Instagram you can fake an incredible lifestyle.
But this will only deviate your attention from the real doorway: facing fear and becoming self-confident. Only this will make you happy.
24. MANAGE THE BASICS OF SELF CONFIDENCE
(THIS WILL MAKE EVERYTHING MUCH EASIER)
Embrace stress as part of your ambitious journey. Manage the basics to feel well:
- Eat natural food and sleep well at least three labor days.
- Practice 20 minutes of daily moderate exercise.
- Use special brain waves music to achieve the relaxed estate you want. (There´s lots of such free music on YouTube.)
And meditation for confidence works?
Of course, 10 minutes of daily meditation will work wonders.
25. BE A CONTRARIAN (Great Self-Confidence Builder)
The wise person sees possibilities were others don’t. So do the contrary of everybody:
-Speaking to that imposing person
-Or attack that megaproject
It´s where you will achieve your biggest success. The best personal relations and business opportunities are behind fear. Once you do what nobody does you have the key.
26. BEST DEFINITION OF CONFIDENCE: Don´t hesitate!
If you don’t speak to that girl another one will get her.
If you don’t try that project another one will win your money. And fast.
27. CONFIDENCE MOVIES LIE
It´s easy seeing movies and thinking "I can also do that," and then not taking action. But then you will ask yourself why you aren’t happy.
Solution: take the old fashioned non-glamorous action.
28. THE MISCONCEPTION OF “BEING CONFIDENT”
There is no such thing as “being confident.” There is no Nirvana where you will be unshakeable Fear will be always there. Because think about it. Without fear there wouldn’t be confidence.
So there isn’t an “I’m now confident“ pill despite many scammers sell this pill. This is a short-term solution that will only postpone the pain of crossing fear.
So fear is part of you. Don’t neglect it. It’s what the good ones did.
29. BEST CONFIDENCE WORDS: KNOW YOURSELF
Like Sun Tzu said in the Art of War 2.500 years ago. “When you see your enemy as you see yourself, you will never fear the outcome of a battle.” This also serves to win the battle of fear.
Most people never go far because they don’t want to admit where they are. But learning how to be confident is first recognizing your situation. (Sorry but even fools have a sixth sense to perceive your fear.)
They hide their weakness but so they don’t attack the right problem. And then adrenaline and blood pressure sabotage them.
30. THE RIGHT MINDSET TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE (I):
“HELLO, I WAS MISSING YOU”
Embrace your fear. Welcome him. “Here are you again, I was missing you.” And continue thinking on your goal, but with a clear mind, which is the only way to find a solution.
Fear is your friend. He can come as much as he wants. And when he arrives, smile. Since he doesn’t like to be accepted, he will disappear.
31. THE RIGHT MINDSET TO EXUDE CONFIDENCE (II):
MAKE IT A GAME
Give yourself points whenever you speak to a stranger, ask a difficult question, or dance alone in a bar. Learning how to be confident can be a game! So give yourself more points the more you resist the temptation of abandoning these scenes.
And then try to beat your own record.
32. WHEN YOU ACCEPT TENSION AS NORMAL YOU ALSO KILL THE ROOT OF MANY SIDE EFFECTS LIKE WORRIES, PANIC, OR DEPRESSION
Not achieving your goals because of fear is the cause of frustration and feeling overwhelmed. And this leads to all kind of worries and stress.
33. THE 2 STEP METHOD TO BECOME SELF-CONFIDENT
Becoming self-confident is about one simple technique. It´s incredibly simple, but you must apply it:
Step 1: Recognize fear.
Step 2: Take one imperfect step forward, only one.
Here you have it, the fast receipe on how to be confident. From daring to do something scary, to win in chess, recognizing fear and taking a step forward it always works.
34. MAKE ADRENALINE YOUR FRIEND
Use your physical tension when you need to be bold. So you will have extra energy and move faster.
35. COACHING FOR CONFIDENCE: AVOID PERFECTIONISM
...You only need an imperfect telephone call to contact someone important.
...You only need to open an imperfect web to sell your product.
...You only need to open your mouth to say what nobody dares to say.
Be imperfect and begin imperfect plans. You will do more so than 90% of people.
36. IT’S NOT MORE KNOWLEDGE WHAT YOU NEED
No my friend, you don’t need more knowledge to learn how to be confident. You don’t even need more hard work. Not even talent.
You need facing fear.
Even a newbie will save years of work simply facing fear. Success is predictable: simply face fear.
37. IT'S THE OLD "THE BEST DEFENSE IS A GOOD ATTACK"
You must simply move. It’s the one who hesitates who loses.
Since your rivals will also have fear, you will win most of the times simply going forward. The best defense is a good attack.
This will solve all your confidence crisis!
Good actors, entrepreneurs, or athletes know it well and do what others avoid.
38. THE BEST CONFIDENCE BUILDING EXERCISE
(It also serves if you can´t move physically that moment.)
Then visualize in advance. It will also serve to program your subconcious mind for success. Since your senses don’t distinguish between imagined and reality, simply imagine the situation and solve it mentally.
39. THE MINI STEP (better than taking a confident course)
I can’t insist enough, the most important thing to kill fear is one first step forward. Even if it’s a little step.
The solution on how to be confident is not about big moves. It´s about mini-steps. It´s also one of the best productivity strategies. Even if you do everything wrong, you will see an open door. Perhaps you must refine your approach, but once you have the proof it will be easy.
40. YOU WILL SEE PATTERNS
Once you confront fear you will do always better.
Imagine… You will hear people warning you about terrible dangers, you will hear the word no, you will see closed doors. But then you will recognize the solution is in front of you. “Here is the same obstacle again, there I go.“
41. FACE TENSION AND ITS POWER WILL PASS TO YOU
Once you see the advantage of taking one bold step you will have the proof and want more. You will love the tension. Confront fear and fear will turn into enthusiasm. You will laugh jumping higher and trying bigger projects. It´s also the fastest way to turn into a genius.
And then fear´s power will pass to you.
From the mouse´s head to the lion’s tail. And from the lion’s tail to the lion’s head.
42. SHARE SELECTIVELY
Believe me, one of your current friends has a similar case to your current problem. And his or her experience is priceless. You can ask him or her how to be confident. How was their particular case?
Perhaps you only party with your friends or only have a work relation. But you would get surprised by their fears and experiences. Together you could build a solution.
As long as they aren’t an envious person, ask subtly if they didn’t face a similar situation. It’s incredible what you could gain with another point of view. One plus one is three.
43. YOUR ONLY ENEMY IS YOUR INNER ENEMY
Your competitors or business rivals are secondary actors. Your only enemy is your inner enemy. It’s that voice that “protects” you not try new goals. It looks like a wise voice, but it only wants you to surrender.
Your inner enemy will wait for your weak moments, so don’t let him speak or you will make the wrong decision.
44. PURSUE GOALS, NOT FREE TIME
How to be confident without goals? Your brain will be empty and the negative thoughts will win so. So replace the vacuum with goals.
45. WATCH THE INCUBATING THOUGHT
Watch any negative emotion and substitute it immediately with a positive one. Otherwise, before you notice it, this incubating thought will turn into a monster.
46. GET CONFIDENT CHANGING YOUR WORDS
Never pronounce negative words like problem or impossible.
As simple as that.
47. THE BEST CONFIDENCE CLASS: FAIL A LOT
Love your failures. The sooner you fail, the sooner you will succeed.
48. INCREASING CONFIDENCE: YOUR ARSENAL OF PAST SUCCESSES
Build your arsenal of past achievements to have an inspiring self-image whenever you need it. It will also motivate you to do hard work!
49. ELIMINATE YOUR INNER ENEMY EXPECTING HIS ATTACK IN THE WORST MOMENT
Your inner enemy will always try to catch you up out of guard. So be prepared.
50. BE ALWAYS IN LEARNING MODE
The decisions you shouldn’t have taken and your failures, must work in your favor. So see them as a necessary experience to learn how to be confident.
51. YOUR OUTER OPPONENTS WILL MAKE YOU BETTER
How to be confident without oponents? Come on! Your haters or a bad economy will make you harder. And they will make you think more.
52. ARROGANCE VS. CONFIDENCE: DON’T GET CAUGHT IN UNNECESSARY FIGHTS
There are people you dislike, but let them go. Save energy.
53. USE THE OLD-FASHIONED AFFIRMATIONS
Saying out loud to yourself you´ll do everything what´s needed to learn how to be confident will work wonders.
54. THE SOLUTION TO PANIC BEFORE COMPETITION
The famous pianist Arthur Schnabel practiced on his head. And Napoleon Bonaparte also visualized battles in his head.
So visualize in your mind your feared scene with all the details as if it were a real situation. How would you act? You will overcome your fear in advance if you train mentally.
55. HOW TO SPEAK WITH CONFIDENCE
Try to speak more clearly and slower even with your friends, husband, or spouse. You will feel rare first, but then you will speak with authority. Do some repetitions and you will speak with an incredible voice.
56. BODY LANGUAGE FOR CONFIDENCE: THE DUCK TECHNIQUE
A duck in a pond is the absolute image of peace, yet below the water, it moves its legs like crazy. And this is also your strategy to irradiate confidence while hiding your nerves.
So to eliminate physical shaking make playful movements. Join your fingers and separate them. Or hit the ground with your leg as if following a song.
57. HOW TO ELIMINATE DRY MOUTH, SWEATY HANDS, TUNNEL VISION, AND POST CONFRONTATIONAL HEART RATE
Simply don’t worry. See it as a result of taking action, always the best option.
58. INCREASING CONFIDENCE: BREATH PROFOUND
Breathing profound will help you incredibly when learning how to be confident. You can make some research about Pranayama breathing. But if you simply breathe profound 20 times per day you will solve your shaking and many other problems.
And now avoid these 7 invisible traps that slow your life down.
Perhaps you are killing your future falling into these subtle invisible traps. So be prevented. You can save years of work and desperation avoiding these errors.
59. AVOID INVISIBLE TRAP Nr. 1:
THE HEALTH TRAP
You must act despite your arm hurts or you feel low energy. You must show your mind you will continue even if it blackmails you with fever or a dislocated finger.
That way many pains you had in the past won’t appear.
60. AVOID INVISIBLE TRAP Nr 2:
THE BORING REPETITION
You escape from repetition because you are bombarded with latest news, movies and phone apps every day. They look exciting.
Repetition is part of the process. But if you want to master fear and your charisma, you must repeat your move despite a thousand distractions. Admiration and money will follow only after crossing the desert.
61. AVOID INVISIBLE TRAP Nr 3:
THE WELL-TRAINED MANIPULATORS
More people than you think have a collection of meticulously designed comments to make you quit. They are well-trained manipulators. “You are not one of those,” or “There aren´t possibilities today!”
You taking off and they stagnating? Never!
Expect this in your way on how to be confident. Your so-called friends aren’t perhaps your friends. If in doubt observe their situation. Do you want their same life?
62. AVOID INVISIBLE TRAP Nr 4:
THE VALID EXCUSES
You will always have something better to do than the really important task.
You will always have a perfect excuse. So as soon as you hear excusing yourself recognize you are in trouble. And then it around seeing it as an opportunity.
63. AVOID INVISIBLE TRAP Nr 5:
“I DON’T TRY SO I DON´T LOSE”
Playing not to lose, is losing. Because playing it safe you lose taking new opportunities. And worse, you lose an experience, more valuable than reading 10 books. How to be confident without never trying?
Don´t care about the results.
So better look stupid and try. If you don’t fail your life will seem perfect, but you will hate your life.
64. AVOID INVISIBLE TRAP Nr 6:
DON´T BE A CONTROL FREAK
There´s no regulated way to succeed. Einstein was lost when designing his theories. And the discoverer of penicillin was also lost in his research. They changed their plans continuously.
Control is an illusion. So to succeed fast tolerate being lost. Turn your ratio of 5% innovating and 95% fixing to 50% of innovation and 50% fixing.
65. AVOID INVISIBLE TRAP Nr 7:
THE SECURITY MYTH
Searching for security is the most insecure thing. A secure job, a secure relation... a secure shit.
Security is like taking pills, they relieve you in the short term but cause terrible side effects.
Solution: follow your passion.
66. YOU WILL STAGNATE. SO WHAT?
(THE FILTER OF CHAMPIONS)
When you progressed learning Spanish or making new friends you took off. But then one day it was impossible to progress. Stagnation came.
But stagnation is the filter of champions, a sign you are in the good road on how to be confident. Your subconscious mind is reassembling the pieces. So continue with that skill or habit to emerge stronger. You will be ahead of 95% of people so.
67. HOW TO INCREASE CONFIDENCE: DIGG PROFOUND
Perhaps you never achieved your goals because you didn’t know what you really fear. And so you entered a fantasy of being mega confident. It was seductive. But so you were far away from yourself.
So change your life going both ways, outside and inside. Take the bold step (go outside), but also go to the root. If you want to learn how to be confident. fast work outside and inside of you. Everything changes when you also work your inside and ask yourself what do you really fear. It will be a revolution. Perhaps you think you fear speaking in front of 10 persons but what you internally fear is people seeing you don’t have anything interesting to say. (Which by the way isn’t true, because everyone has something interesting to say.)
So make the journey. It’s nice to make a movie where you are always confident, but so you only isolate from your real self. So take the bold step of going profound.
68. ACCEPT VERTIGO
Once you overcome your biggest fear you will meet first-class rivals. You will do new mistakes. And vertigo will appear. So you will be tempted to quit beforehand.
At the top it will be easier to grow because you already have the skills. But love being at the top.
Vertigo is a good sign.
69. ACCEPT CRITICISM
Facing aggressive critics of your book, or being blamed because of your new celebrity status will be inevitable. But it will be much better than staying with the sheep.
You will be in a better position to find more opportunities.
70. THE WORST CASE SCENARIO, YOUR NEW BEST FRIEND
A trick to eliminate fear is imagining the worst thing that could happen. Sit and think.
What would if you run out of money?
What is your spouse or husband leaves you?
What if you get ridiculed?
Imagining the worst scenario is perfect to try difficult things. You´ll learn how to be confident faster if you imagine your future responses. First, you´ll lower your stress because you see nothing is as bad as it seems. It’s only a battle in your mind.
And it gets better. It will give you essential information about who and what to beware of. It will sharpen your mind to plan better and move faster. And you will produce ideas and find allies. So for example, you will jump the next five weeks to the project that will solve your money problem for life.
And since you can always refine it you will find always better ways to do it.
71. COACHING FOR CONFIDENCE: SCRATCH IN YOUR PAST
It can be hard remembering your failures as a child. But we all have them. They are valuable in your process on how to be confident. And it will help you incredibly seeing that you are shy because your teacher ridiculed you in front of your classmates. But once you deconstruct it, goodbye shyness.
So investigate your past because and you will save tons of false limiting thoughts.
72. BOOST YOUR LEVER OF CONFIDENCE:
THE GRADUAL BOLDNESS SOLUTION
Perhaps you have now an imposing fear you think you can’t handle. So break it into pieces.
Because a big fear is a group of small fears. So you can always break it down into manageable parts and solve it one by one. This is the strategy that Alexander the Great used. He attacked flank by flank to erode his enemies. And so he created the largest empire of the ancient world at age 30.
It’s an obvious solution, yet nobody does it. Because people think in terms of absolute fears. They see in the movies how the hero wins in a wonderful agonizing big strike and think it’s the only way.
Don’t try to be good in a day. For big fears try daily a little step. Each day attack a different part and soon you will have it. You will get immunized against paralysis and face big fears and phobias like fear of elevators, dog phobia, or starting unthinkable relations.
Captivating an audience? Winning a gold medal? Writing a book? It´s simply improvement over improvement. There you have an exponential growth.
73. TRAIN YOUR ANTI-FEAR MUSCLE DAILY
If you train daily facing small fears you will have a fantastic training to beat big fears.
Most people love good advice. They hear it once and say “Wow, I will use it,” but then they don’t use it. Yet you can’t do it once and expect miracles.
So to avoid this, combine training your anti-fear muscle with the lifestyle you want. You only have to feel a small prick every day. And so every small situation will grow your mental strength. You will never be caught off guard with the big challenges, like everybody does, because you will have internalized your own micro-movements to beat fear.
74. DESIGN YOUR OWN DAILY TRAINING PROGRAM
Is confident a skill? Absolutely.
So have a program to lose your fears.
Whether you train to maintain eye contact, making difficult questions, or lying in the middle of the street you will see that facing one fear will make you get rid of others. Because in essence all fears are the same.
Make your own program that fits into your lifestyle. From the easy ones like speaking to a store clerk or giving a compliment, to most difficult ones like approaching strangers to tell them a joke, or enlarging one extra minute a conversation despite it will get awkward.
75. YOUR HIDDEN WEAPON: VISUALIZING
Your mind is incredibly powerful, much more than you think.
So before taking action, visualize first the outcome you want. Since your senses don’t differentiate what´s true from imagined, if you imagine something vividly you will have 90% chances of getting it.
It’s what Legendary golfer Jack Nicklaus, winner of 18 Grand Slam tournaments did, he visualized his matches beforehand.
So isolate one minute to reprogram your subconscious mind and eliminate any fear. You will enter a mental state where everything clicks. Try imagining how you play better at your favorite sport, or how you have a great interaction in your next appointment.
Good athletes visualize first the perfect shot and the screaming stadium. And so in the moment of truth, they do the winning movement automatically. There are also studies that prove how athletes that trained mentally had much better results than those who trained (even more time) physically.
Visualizing serves for everything, you can use it to be creative or achieve whatever you want. You can imagine lower your fear to travel by subway, imagining how you make people laugh in an event, or imagining how you drive more safely without reacting to other drivers (and so save your life).
The possibilities are endless. You will save money and time. (But never visualize what you don’t want, because that’s what will get programmed.)
76. THE FAST WAY TO VISUALIZE SELF-CONFIDENCE
To visualize well apply these 3 tips:
Help yourself with details
Focus on the critical moment and don´t deviate from this image.
Focus always on the frightening moment where you enter the stage to speak in public, or when you have three rivals around you and must pass the ball right. What do you feel? What do you see? The tenser you become, the better.
And then visualize the solution over and over. One minute per day will be okay.
77. CONFIDENCE CRISIS?
HOW TO SURVIVE RELAPSES
Your anti-fear process will have ups and downs. It’s the universe doing its selection process. Who will resist?
This is why the best basketball player, the best cook, or the best public speaker are the bests. They don’t surrender.
There will come a moment where the writing of your book will look impossible or your charisma to lead will get worse than before.
The process is always the same, after some first good sensations, then a relapse. Then new good sensations again, but then a bigger relapse. And one of them can be very big. So accept that if you fail you are doing well. But it’s the logical process, it’s your brain reordering the data. You must continue.
Yet sadly, most people received the wrong education and sabotage themselves surrendering at the first bump. But it’s at the low point where you have to continue. Everything has its rhythm and even world champions need time to recover. You are never “too good” not to fail. In fact, failing is the only way. For you and for the world champion.
78. DO IT FOR YOU (NEVER TO IMPRESS OTHERS)
Think on someone you admire. Does he show off?
No, but curiously this makes him magnetic.
So when eliminating your fears be the silent hero. Everybody perceives who is bold.
79. THE RIGHT ORDER:
FIRST DO WHAT YOU FEAR
Instead of working many hours going nowhere, try to do what you most fear first. You will save hundreds of unproductive hours so.
Because think about it, when you finish the imposing project, you will eliminate hundreds of secondary tasks, because once you do something big you will have enough money to subcontract many other tasks!
So from now on if you have to talk to someone imposing, make the appointment first time in the morning. Or if you have to launch a big idea, do it first.
80. YOU WILL HAVE TO ABANDON TASKS… AND FRIENDS
Sorry but to be self-confident you will have to abandon a lot of easy tasks. And also many friends that won’t support you.
To play in the first leagues you must grab the bull by the horns. Even if this means letting postponing eternally many tasks. Because remember, you only live once.
81. ACCEPT THAT FEAR WILL CONTINUE IN YOUR LIFE
Fear never disappears. Sorry.
But you can reduce it a lot. Once you understand your mind's reaction fear is a little prick.
Yet realize that always a new one will appear. But it’s perfect so. It’s a sign you're moving forward. You are at a higher level with more victories in your resumé and a better economic and personal situation.
Life is ups and downs. New fears appear, but you need them. Whenever you go up, and you will go up with this advice, new possibilities disguised as problems will appear. But they will be better opportunities. So you will separate from the rest.
82. GETTING CONFIDENT IS ALSO ENCOURAGING OTHERS
Another way to inspire yourself is by encouraging others. Because automatically what you say passes to you.
If you encourage someone to get up, you will also transmit this power to you. Not to speak of the benefits of winning a new friend that will later support you.
83. DO YOU WANT CONFIDENCE WHEN SPEAKING?
LIVE THE MOVIE
Another good technique to get confident is watching yourself like from a drone. You see yourself with a 007 coolness. You face the villain. The hero doesn’t retreat. He even smiles.
84. GOOD OPPORTUNITIES APPEAR WHEN LESS EXPECTED
And sometimes not lasting more than a second. So you must confront your fear at the moment or goodbye opportunity. Otherwise you will complain “Why didn’t I try!”
But it will be too late.
85. ANOTHER WORD FOR CONFIDENCE: WOUNDS
You need the wounds.
You have to go through moments of tough and awkward situations. Think that the wounds are necessary. Yet the rewards are great.
86. CELEBRATE EVEN LITTLE SUCCESSES
Never say “I could have done better.” That’s your inner enemy speaking so that you surrender.
If you started writing that book, or put your right step in that balcony despite your fear of heights, celebrate it. You can be sure that most people won’t even try.
87. ONCE YOU GET BOLDER. THOUSANDS OF NEW OPPORTUNITIES WILL APPEAR
An entire world opens to you once you try. Benefits will come even from indirect sources. It’s the way the universe rewards you for getting better.
88. THE PROOF THAT YOU CAN ELIMINATE YOUR FEAR
You don’t feel fear in the border of a road continuously crossed by dangerous cars, you do it every day. So there you have the proof that you can be in front of the most dangerous thing without fear.
89. YOU CAN BUILD A VERY LUCRATIVE BUSINESS AROUND IT
If you know how to face fear you can make a business about eliminating the fears of your sector. You can make tons of clients so, because remember, everybody has fear.
90. INCREASE YOUR SELF-CONFIDENCE STEP-BY-STEP, NOBODY MUST NOTICE IT
No one will attack you if they don’t perceive you get better. When they react it will be too late. You will be already too powerful. Sounds Machiavellian but it’s the best way to do it.
91. HAVE YOUR OWN REWARD SYSTEM
You need to recognize your little successes or you will abandon. Don’t be too hard with yourself. You did the tough part and now you deserve the price. The Yin and Yang that moves the universe.
So design a reward system for even little goals. Whether a coffee with chocolate, buying a shirt, reviewing a past memory, or a trip to Australia, design your own system. You will eliminate fear faster so.
92. BE PATIENT
Real life is different than cool advertisements. 99% Of moments you won’t feel like a hero. And you will have bad moments. Don’t care. It’s normal. Follow your way.
93. NEVER FORGET: THE TOUGHEST MOMENT = THE BEST THINGS IN YOUR LIFE
Is it difficult? Perfect. It’s the opportunity of your life.
94. ALWAYS JUDGE YOURSELF BY WHAT YOU TRIED, NOT BY THE RESULTS
Success is trying.
95. TO GET CONFIDENT NEVER BELIEVE ON WHAT THE INTERNET AND THE MEDIA SAY
The media speaks about records, victories, and an incredible lifestyle as if it were easy. But to achieve this, you must change your mind. And it’s hard first.
Yet everybody who did something big felt the prick of fear. There was no other way.
96. THE “WHAT´S YOUR OPTION?” BOOST
In case you need a final boost, ask yourself: what’s the option of not doing it? It will be never harder than a life of low income, bad relations, and consuming anxiety.
97. WHAT IF YOU COMPETE WITH THE BEST? THE WORST THAT COULD HAPPEN IS THAT AT LEAST YOU WILL BE LIKE THEM
The games where a player gets better are those played against better rivals. Try it. At the minimum, you will polish errors and fix your concentration. At the minimum!
98. YOU CAN ELIMINATE ALL YOUR FEARS
Even if you think you are the most fearful person on earth.
99. DO IT FOR OTHERS
If you need a strong argument to face fear, think on others instead of on yourself.
How many people could lose opportunities because you don’t confront your fears?
100. EMBRACE THE ROLLER COASTER, THE REWARD IS TOO BIG
There will be ups and downs, but accept it. Try to become self-confident with all your forces because you can’t imagine the rewards. Incredible stories will come.
And to finish one tip more. The code of confidence:
101. LOOK INTO THE EYES
If you could only use one technique to become confident use this one: look everybody in the eyes.
Wow! You saw a lot of advice, I know. Do you want something easy to follow? If you need the essence of eliminating fear follow these guidelines:
HOW TO BE CONFIDENT IN 3 STEPS:
1. ACCEPT THAT FEAR IS NORMAL
2. TAKE A LITTLE IMPERFECT STEP FORWARD
3. IF YOU TRY, YOU WON
So, I hope many of this advice will help you. Try only one and you will notice changes even today.
To finish I will give you my favorite quotes on self-confidence:
BEST INSPIRATIONAL QUOTES ON HOW TO BE CONFIDENT:
There are tons of quotes about self-confidence, but in my opinion these are the bests:
“The best way out is always through.”
― Robert Frost
“Courage first, power second, technique third.”
― Author unknown
“Without courage, wisdom bears no fruit.”
– Baltasar Gracian
“The key to life is accepting challenges. Once someone stops doing this, he's dead.”
― Bette Davis
“If you know the enemy and know yourself, you need not fear the result of a hundred battles. If you know neither the enemy nor yourself, you will succumb in every battle.”
― Sun Tzu, The Art of War
“One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.”
― Arthur Ashe
"Courage is fear holding on a minute longer!”
― General George S. Patton
“Hesitation of any kind is a sign of mental decay in the young, of physical weakness in the old.”
― Oscar Wilde
“Courage is doing what you’re afraid to do. There can be no courage unless you’re scared.”
― Eddie Rickenbacker, World War I hero
THE BEST BOOK ON SELF-CONFIDENCE:
THE BEST ARTICLES ON HOW TO BE CONFIDENT:
Here are also some articles that will help you:
By Chris W. Dunn
Chris Dunn gives very good and practical advice. I like especially the tip of the “100 days of rejection challenge”.
By Amy Morin
Amy Morin goes straight to the point. From stop comparing yourself to others to practice Self-Compassion, the article gives precise advice.
By Peter Economy
Very good article that goes directly to the key to become confident: Change your body language and image
By Neel Burton
Neel Burton from Psychology Today gives a lot of information and also alternative advice like doing things you have been putting off or making your space clean and comfortable.
By Leo Babauta
Leo Babauta´s Zen habits is one of the best counselors you can have in your life. This article gives a long list of solutions that can help you.
By Magda Kay
Magda Kay from psychologyformarketers.com gives also very good advice. I like the ones of dressing smart and speaking loudly.
By Tanya J. Peterson
Tanya J. Peterson makes a very interesting approach describing what self-confidence exactly is. Once you know it the solution is open.
By Frances Bridges
Another very good article by Frances Bridges focusing on an often-overlooked tip: don’t care about what others think.
THE BEST VIDEO ON SELF-CONFIDENCE:
In this video I´ll show you how to become a powerful mind fast!:
Once you know how to be confident you´ll aspire to everything. And any of the 101 tips you saw will serve you.
Perhaps you think now it’s too late to build your self-confidence and change your life. It isn’t. Even if you are in your 80´s and have a past of failure. No, it’s not too late. You are much better than you think.
And you will get it fast with the information I gave you.
You will enter a new world. You will think faster, you will seduce and convince faster. Knowing you can get everything you want will be priceless.
In case you need a fast strategy to achieve self-confidence simply follow this:
1. FEAR IS NORMAL
2. TAKE A LITTLE IMPERFECT STEP
3. IF YOU TRY YOU WON
If you came here you are from the chosen ones, you went from speaking to doing, the step everybody skips.
And simply taking a step towards fear you will achieve incredible results. Even if you fail!
And the best prize about getting self-confident won’t be a seven-figure bank account, nor your house in the Swiss Alps or new girlfriend or boyfriend. People will envy your career, and social circle, but this will be secondary.
The best prize will be your sensation of being made of iron.
So take action, it’s simply a question of pursuing your dreams. I can’t emphasize it enough; results will come simply taking an imperfect step. You won’t believe where you will go so.
Choose one from these 100 strategies, simply the one that fits better. It will change your life immediately.
Expect a roller coaster, but what a rollercoaster!
It will be epic.