We make a sharp division between work and fun. Work is work, and free time is free time.
This stupid post industrial tendency to separate work from personal life will destroy your dreams.
Because there isn’t a division.
There is no such thing as “work” and “free time. “
If you think so you will never have free time.
(And of course, forget to enjoy your work.)
But life is short and you spend many hours at work to not love what you do.
So think different.
Be smarter and marriage work with a fulfilling life.
Even when most people avoid it. But it’s the only way to multiply your productivity. Only so you will win more money.
So first don’t fool yourself: don’t separate your job from what you like to do. Otherwise you are saying I hate my job.
And this is not a way of living.
The world needs you being happy with what you do. The world needs productive people.
So first ask yourself:
Are you happy now?
Be specific: how much in a scale from 0 to 10?
Because then comes the big question:
Are you following your passion?
Most people don’t follow their passion and are obsessed with not giving more than what they receive.
But so they receive less.
And then they give less.
They fall in an endless loop that will lead them to spend their last years broke depending on the state. Depending on those politicians they hate. Add to this they never enjoyed life because they hated their jobs, and you will have a nice chamber of torture.
Do you want this for you?
I know you’re thinking: “But this is the “normal” way of life!” You do the job as fast as you can, criticize your boss, blame society, and meanwhile you try to obtain more giving less.
That’s not the most intelligent thing to do.
First, take the bull by the horns. First answer this question: “I am following my passion?”
Or at least “Do I have a plan to change my current job while earning some money to survive?”
First things first.
Even when most people think that by following the crowd they will find the heaven.
But the most stupid thing you can do in your life is following the crowd.
So better escape whenever you hear expressions like “This is the right thing to do.” Because if you do what “normal people” do, you will have the normal awful shitty life everybody has.
And so you will fail.
(And by failing I include going to a “secure job” with an angry face and praying for no new problems. Which, by the nature of work never happens.)
So first avoid the great mass mindset. Think different. First avoid the “suffer to succeed” thought.
Find your passion and build your career around it
Whenever you hear “Struggling is normal” or “There aren’t good jobs anymore,” ask yourself: who says this?
And you will find always an unproductive person. Those who support official thoughts hate their life. And they will make all necessary to convince you about no chances.
So don´t follow the official rule of separating job from personal life. This is why a recent study in the academic journal Social Forces reveals that only 6% of adults end up in the career they dreamed as kids.
Don’t separate your job from your personal life. It’s a limited thought. Because this implies you can’t be happy at work. Or you work, or you are happy. No.
If you separate this you will be unproductive. In your free time you will think in your awful job, and during your awful job you will think on your free time instead of concentrating.
Perfect for being unproductive and underpaid.
And of course, say goodbye to more free time so.
Therefore change the way you look at it. It’s not about bringing work home. It’s not about working more hours.
What I mean is being smart enough to find your passion and build your career around it.
Because you could work where you want. There is always a solution. You could paint, fly planes, solve political crisis, design deep pocket marketing campaigns, produce electronic music, research artificial intelligence, or manufacture nails…
But therefore you must know what you love.
If you don´t know what you want you will end up in a job you hate. The key is finding something where after finishing you say. “It was hard today, but I love it so much I would do it for free.”
Do you think it’s impossible?
Okay, look at productive people. They do what they love and persevere even the “bad days.”
Because first understand this: struggling in your job makes you unproductive. And being unproductive means being low-paid.
So break the chain.
First forget the nonsense of “separating job from free time.” First find your real purpose.
First thing is not trying to win money.
First is not trying to find a secure job.
First is not trying to find a job to be at 5 o’clock at home.
This is the surest way to end up broke with 65 years.
Here’s the deal:
First think profound until finding how to combine your job with your real purpose!
Only if you mix your job with your passion you will live your dream. Only so you will build a technological empire, write best-selling books, be an astronomer, invest in technology talents or travel the world.
There is no other way.
So don’t take shortcuts! To live your dreams you have to find your passion first. First thing first.
I know you suffered a limiting familiar and work environment. Now you believe you can’t escape:
Life is hard…
There’s no salvation…
Depression from Monday to Friday…
And then total joy on the weekends…
But depression will continue on weekends since Monday will be always there.
So the ONLY antidote is merging what you like with your job.
Do you know your biggest fear?
And now comes the key:
Are you scared of what you will find if you try? “Following my passion? Isn’t this dangerous?”
Because here comes your biggest fear:
The fear to succeed.
What will be behind that?
But better try. If you do what you love you will win more money than anyone. Sure.
But it’s not the money.
It’s feeling incredible because you are enjoying your life. It’s like pursuing and achieving your ideal partner. You will walk in the street thinking “I’m the man/woman!”
There is no better sensation.
And feeling so you will attract more people. And new skills. And you will be more productive. The right loop.
Want to know the best part?
You are on time.
You can change your career and change your life. But only if you decide today to pursue your dreams whatever happens. Only if you combine your work with your real purpose.
So I will give you some extra help for this.
Do the following:
Imagine yourself with 90 years
You need a push to jump to your passion. And nothing like seeing the worst-case scenario.
Many people say “Think in your dreams!”
But it’s much more effective thinking in what you can lose.
So imagine you are 90 years old. Now you look back at your life:
- What would you regret not having done?
- With whom should you had spent more time?
- What books do you should have read more (even twice times or more)?
- What mindset should you have avoided?
To make it short: what would you do differently if you could begin again?
If you look back at your life imagining you are 90 years old, you will get shocked.
It will be a torture. It will be hard seeing the good things you could have achieved but never tried. There is nothing worse than looking at your past and think in the life you didn’t live. “If only I had tried!”
But like I said, you are on time.
Yet you can’t lose any minute!
So first ask yourself what do I really want in life. It will take you one minute, one hour, or one year. But invest the necessary time until finding it There´s no other way. First you need to know it.
Because everything depends on knowing what you want in life.
And once you have it, and ONLY if you have it, it’s time to create your masterpiece.
Then you will recognize how you lose time on unimportant things. And you will quit doing them. Imagine… lots of telephone calls, emails, projects, and new ideas for new products won´t have sense. You will win a lot of time so.
You have the opportunity to change your life. But you have to begin now.
So imagine yourself with 90 years looking into the past. Do the exercise now. It will be hard. But you must shake your mind. Imagine yourself very old looking at your life. Take 5 minutes.
Does it hurt?
What would you do differently now?
Since you aren’t probably 90 years old, you are on time to change your life. But now you will stop the dangerous “Tomorrow I will begin.”
Once you see what you can lose, you will jump to your goals. This technique is more effective than thinking about what you want to achieve.
Think of losses and you will persevere no matter what.
A lot of people will try to convince you not to jump. They will also try to steal your time…
But they won’t beat you.
Because you will have a new mindset. And better, you will begin and don’t wait for the perfect moment.
Because the perfect moment will be now.
So this is the point of view you need: thinking in what you can lose and then taking one step forward.
And the good thing is that you can begin today.
If you need a bigger push, insist about it. Sit again for 10 minutes. Or an hour. Think you are 90 years old and you didn’t live the life you liked.
It will be hard.
But it will be harder regretting your whole life instead of an hour.
The truth about happiness
Another thing you can do to never struggle between job and free time anymore, is thinking like a child.
Children absorb like sponges all the information they need to achieve their ideas. They are committed. They will become what they want yes or yes.
But then they grow up and start to hear “Don’t do this,” or “If you go there you will fall.” World was full of dangers!
And then they lose their dreams.
Adults reinforce that fear with more stories about failures. They will shape on them a fearful character. And when they grow up they will have a lot of things to fear and a lot of things not to try.
This is how people get expert in not doing things.
Not the best thought to live your dreams.
But look, if humanity did great things, it was thanks to the child-mindset of pursuing a dream.
And you can recover it. You won’t be always shy. You can change. You can be smarter. You can learn to convince people. You can learn to be a world class expert. You can be in shape despite being 50 years old.
Of course you can.
If you pursue your dream like if you were a child, you will succeed. Take a daily step and you will achieve it sooner than you think.
But first, find your passion.
Focus your life on your passion. Because once you merge job with your big goal there won’t be complaints. Depressive people won’t affect you. You won’t need pills. You won’t need extra help from the state.
If you enjoy what you do, you will discipline yourself to do anything. Will obstacles appear? Of course. But you will overcome them all. Nothing compared to hating your job and life.
So the key is:
Don’t succeed to be happy.
First be happy. And then you will succeed
Now you are asking yourself: “But really? Will I succeed faster pursuing my passion? That’s not what they told me.”
Passion comes first.
It’s never the money. It’s not the admiration of others. First is following your bliss.
In this order.
Timing is vital.
You can’t succeed in your career and then be happy. You can´t be rich and then happy. No.
The right order is:
- = Follow your passion
- = Succeed
So don’t make the error everybody does. They try first to win money. Or first they look for a secure job. And then happiness will come.
I also made that mistake.
And happiness never came.
Too many years doing something I didn’t like consumed me. But after the hard moment of thinking about what I really liked (please, take your time to think about this), I got it. Then Sunday´s evenings stopped to be a torture. Then I smiled waking up on labor days. I was happy despite not earning enough the first months.
And I learned skills that began to pay some money. I also got self-disciplined. And that gave me self-confidence, something you can’t buy with money.
And then came the big earnings…
So if in doubt about what to do in life, follow Mark Twain’s advice: “Find a job you enjoy doing, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
The fastest strategy to achieve your goals is not designing a career to win more. The fastest way is doing what you love despite it doesn’t give you all the money you need at first. Despite having to combine a 9-to-5 job with your passion.
But once you reach the highest thought of knowing what you want in life, you have it. Once you know what to pursue in life, you will persevere so much, that nothing will stop you.
And then yes, money and recognition will come. (Even when you then won’t care for money, nor recognition.)
So find your purpose like a kid, and live around it.
What’s your passion?
A systematic search of your personal mission is vital. Every minute you invest thinking in what you love to do is the best investment. So I insist. Take a minute, an hour, or a year.
But don’t skip this step.
And once you got it: joy and laughter. And you will multiply your productivity.
If you need proof look at a high achiever. You will find someone passionate about her project. She is enthusiastic. She enjoys her day. She can concentrate during the morning and finish lots of tasks. She enjoys her evenings designing the best strategies.
And she is terribly productive.
Winner takes all. Where most people pursue desperately “free time” and “forgetting” their job (which they will never achieve so), she beats any competitor.
The enthusiastic person combines work and free time enjoying both. Everything in their free time serves to their career. And everything in their career serves to enjoy afternoons and weekends.
So find your passion even if it takes you months to find what you like.
You will need some time to switch between your current job and a dream business that supports you. It’s the normal process. But it’s the only way.
And then people will follow you. They always want to serve an enthusiastic person.
The world needs an altruist. The world needs you
How much is the world losing because you don’t give your best?
If you need an extra push to find your dream job, think on others. Working on something you dislike is depriving your generation of a masterpiece.
Working only at 10% of what you are capable of, is depriving others of new opportunities.
You must be the one who inspires them. So only for this, it’s worth pursuing your passion.
Now you collapse because you hate your job. I know that sensation. And you also are losing opportunities because your current work blurs your vision.
So enough of underperforming. Enough of not been happy.
You have all the talent. You have all the creativity. So your priority today is finding where to give the best of you.
And there are no shortcuts. You must be passionate about your job.
Remember: you can’t deprive the world of something great. Perhaps greater than you can’t imagine.
There is something you do much better than others, believe me.
Think and you will find out.
Perhaps you have some clues now:
- What do you like to speak about?
- What do you like to read in the newspapers?
- What do you like in the movies you see?
You will find a lot of information if you simply observe.
So if in doubt think the universe can’t lose your talent. But never think of living for the job you are “supposed to do”. You will miss a 10 times bigger salary so.
I know a short sighted education deviated you from a better career. But don’t blame your parents. They did the best they could.
Don’t blame your friends. They also didn’t have the right information.
It’s in your hands now. So don’t stop until finding your passion. If you need help follow the 2 keys I gave you. Do you remember?
1st.: Think you were 90 years old and look at your past.
2nd.: Be an altruist: the world needs your talent.
The goose of the golden eggs is your passion.
It won’t bring you money and admiration today.
-You will need some months to think and switch jobs.
-You will have to think.
-You will have to overcome your family’s resistance.
-You will have to change your city.
-You will have to change friends.
But the change will be easy if you find the career or the project of your dreams.
Never skip this first step: working on your passion.
The obstacles will be nothing compared to what you will win.
Most people go through life hiding their ambitions and pleasing others. But if you care about others opinion you are in their hands. And it won’t be the best hands.
Imitating the crowd is a sure way to fail.
So find your passion and make a business around it.
The world needs you. Be an altruist.
To finish, I will summarize the 5 keys to solve the problem of separating job from free time:
- Find your passion and build your career around it.
- Realize that your biggest fear is always the fear to succeed.
- Think you were 90 years old and look at your past. What would you do differently?
- First your passion = being happy. Then succeeding.
- Be an altruist: the world needs the best of you.
You will create such a knowledge, so many inventions, that money won’t be a problem for you.
But it won’t be the money. It won’t be the recognition.
It will be an incredible life.
You will want to repeat this life thousand times.